What is relationship counseling?
Two common complaints in relationships is lack of intimacy and ineffective communication. Lack of intimacy is often associated with ineffective communication in the following way. When we feel attacked by our partner, we put up a shield to protect ourselves. This metaphoric shield blocks us from feeling intimacy and connecting with our partner. By learning how understand, “get,” and have our partners “back” whether they are right or wrong cultivates intimacy. In the process of understanding our partner, we “get” their perspective and can communicate from that perspective. And vis versa.
It is time to feel better.
Most couples can solve or reduce their problems with new skills and new tools. The good news is that these skills and tools can be taught. The great news is that with desire and practice, many relationships get better and happier. We can’t promise to save every relationship, but we believe in love and we want to help make it easier and better for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
How does couples counseling work?
For most people, the beginning of a relationship is the easiest. You seem to be on the same page about most issues. Getting along is almost effortless. Some couples describe this as a sense of ‘oneness’ – a merging of two people into a couple.
As time goes on, each partner realizes that all is not perfect. It is how they each look at their differences and respond to them that can predict a happy relationship or continuing struggles.
This is where couples counseling comes in. The licensed counselors at Orange County Relationship Center are experts at listening to each partner’s concerns and quickly identifying problems. Next, we help each partner to both understand their mate’s concerns and communicate his/her own.
“But what if my partner doesn’t want to come in for couples counseling?”
This is actually quite common. And, yes, we would love to have both partners commit to working together on the relationship. Couples therapy works well when we have two partners committed to improving the relationship. However, we have successfully helped” many relationships improve – with just one person coming for “couples counseling.”
We believe you can improve your relationship by becoming more aware of what you need, what you believe your partner needs, and then making some adjustments to how you interpret and respond in your interactions. We think that is great news: You have the opportunity to improve your relationship without struggling to get your mate to change.
If not now, when?
Please don’t wait until the distance between you has grown too great. Consider couples therapy today. Because you deserve love. And we want to help you have a more healthy, fulfilling and loving relationship.